{"id":4915,"date":"2021-05-22T14:21:44","date_gmt":"2021-05-22T11:21:44","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/wordpress-1316973-5388710.cloudwaysapps.com\/?p=4915"},"modified":"2022-04-04T03:07:54","modified_gmt":"2022-04-04T00:07:54","slug":"karsiliksiz-ask-sendromu-erotomani","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.healmeup.com\/blog\/karsiliksiz-ask-sendromu-erotomani\/","title":{"rendered":"Kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131ks\u0131z A\u015fk Sendromu – Erotomani"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Erotomani, Amerikan Psikiyatri Birli\u011fi (APA) taraf\u0131ndan uluslararas\u0131 bir tan\u0131 arac\u0131 olarak kullan\u0131lan, Mental Bozukluklar\u0131n Tan\u0131sal ve Say\u0131msal El Kitab\u0131\u2019na g\u00f6re; bireyin, ba\u015fka bir ki\u015finin kendisine \u00e2\u015f\u0131k oldu\u011funa dair sanr\u0131lar\u0131ndan olu\u015fan paranoid bir durumdur. Halk aras\u0131nda \u201cKar\u015f\u0131l\u0131ks\u0131z A\u015fk Sendromu\u201d ya da \u201cEros Sendromu\u201d olarak da bilinir.  Genellikle kad\u0131nlarda g\u00f6r\u00fclmekle beraber erkeklerde de g\u00f6r\u00fclebilir. Fakat utanga\u00e7, ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131 ve cinsel a\u00e7\u0131dan deneyimsiz ki\u015filerde daha \u00e7ok g\u00f6r\u00fcld\u00fc\u011f\u00fc g\u00f6zlemlenmi\u015ftir. Hastal\u0131\u011f\u0131n temel semptomu, ac\u0131 \u00e7eken ki\u015finin, ba\u015fka bir ki\u015finin ona \u00e2\u015f\u0131k oldu\u011funa dair sars\u0131lmaz bir inanca sahip olmas\u0131d\u0131r. \u00c7o\u011fu zaman, birey genellikle bir tan\u0131d\u0131k olan; ula\u015f\u0131lamaz bir ki\u015fi veya bu ki\u015finin hi\u00e7 tan\u0131\u015fmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 biri taraf\u0131ndan sevilmek gibi sanr\u0131lara sahiptir. Fakat bunlardan baz\u0131lar\u0131 a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 olabilir. Mesela, asla var olmayan \u00e7ocuklara hamile kalmas\u0131, do\u011fmas\u0131 ve ka\u00e7\u0131r\u0131lmas\u0131 gibi baz\u0131 sanr\u0131lar s\u00f6z konusu olabilir. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Erotomani, a\u00e7\u0131klamas\u0131ndan \u00f6t\u00fcr\u00fc yeni bulunan bir hastal\u0131km\u0131\u015f gibi g\u00f6z\u00fckse de bu hastal\u0131kla ilgili \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131n ba\u015flang\u0131c\u0131 18. y\u00fczy\u0131la kadar dayan\u0131r. O y\u00fczy\u0131l\u0131n ba\u015flar\u0131nda erotomani, kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131ks\u0131z a\u015fk\u0131n ortaya \u00e7\u0131kard\u0131\u011f\u0131 rahats\u0131zl\u0131k olarak tan\u0131mlanm\u0131\u015f; sonras\u0131nda ise bu tan\u0131m, \u201ca\u015f\u0131r\u0131 fiziksel a\u015fk hastal\u0131\u011f\u0131\u201d <\/em>\u015feklinde de\u011fi\u015ftirilmi\u015ftir. 20. y\u00fczy\u0131lda ise erotomani \u201cbirinin kendisine a\u015f\u0131k oldu\u011fu sanr\u0131s\u0131<\/em>\u201d olarak son tan\u0131m\u0131na ula\u015fm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"Kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131ks\u0131z<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Son zamanlarda ilgi g\u00f6ren Masumiyet dizisinin ikinci b\u00f6l\u00fcm\u00fcnde \u0130layda Ali\u015fan’\u0131n canland\u0131rd\u0131\u011f\u0131 Ela karakteri, kendisine bunlar\u0131 ya\u015fatan \u0130lker ile ilk defa mahkeme salonunda kar\u015f\u0131la\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131nda; \u0130lker’in avukat\u0131 Ela’n\u0131n t\u00fcm bu ya\u015fananlar\u0131 kafas\u0131nda kurdu\u011funu, Ela’n\u0131n bir erotomanik oldu\u011funu dile getirdi. Bu sahne sonras\u0131nda erotomani kavram\u0131 merak konusu oldu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Erotomani, birincil ve ikincil olmak \u00fczere iki bi\u00e7imde olabilir. Birincil erotomani genellikle \u201cClerambault Sendromu\u201d ve \u201cOld Maid’s Insanity\u201d olarak adland\u0131r\u0131l\u0131r; komorbidite olmaks\u0131z\u0131n tek ba\u015f\u0131nad\u0131r. Genellikle ani bir \u015fekilde ba\u015flar. \u0130kincil erotomani ise, paranoid \u015fizofreni gibi ruhsal bozukluklarla birlikte bulunabilir. A\u011f\u0131r seyreden sanr\u0131lar, hal\u00fcsinasyonlar s\u00f6z konusudur. Aniden ba\u015flamaz, yava\u015f yava\u015f seyreder. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"Kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131ks\u0131z<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Erotomaninin belirtilerinden en \u00f6nemlisi, ki\u015finin birinin ona \u00e2\u015f\u0131k oldu\u011fu konusunda kesin ve de\u011fi\u015fmez bir tak\u0131nt\u0131ya saplanm\u0131\u015f olmas\u0131d\u0131r. Bu tak\u0131nt\u0131 genellikle y\u00fcksek sosyal stat\u00fcde, \u00f6nemli ya da \u00fcnl\u00fc bir ki\u015fiye y\u00f6neliktir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tipik olarak erotomanik ki\u015fi, a\u015f\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n aralar\u0131nda bir a\u015fk ve ili\u015fki oldu\u011funu reddetmesini, a\u015f\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n ona olan a\u015fk\u0131n\u0131n ve ba\u011fl\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n \u015fifreli bir i\u015fareti olarak yorumlayarak sanr\u0131sal inanc\u0131n\u0131 derinle\u015ftirir. \u00d6rne\u011fin, ma\u011fdur olan ki\u015fi rahats\u0131z edildi\u011fine dair yasal yollara ba\u015fvursa bile, erotomani ya\u015fayan ki\u015fi bu hukuksal s\u00fcrecin onu te\u015fvik etmesi gereken bir s\u00fcre\u00e7 ve i\u015faret oldu\u011funa inanabilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Erotomanik ki\u015fi \u00e7ok sevildi\u011fini ve sevdi\u011fini ama \u00e7e\u015fitli nedenlerle a\u015f\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n bunu belli edemeyip, ondan uzakla\u015fmak zorunda kald\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr. Bu ki\u015fi, a\u015f\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n kendisini delice sevdi\u011fine inan\u0131r ve bir t\u00fcrl\u00fc duygular\u0131n\u0131 ona a\u00e7\u0131klayamad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131, anlatamad\u0131\u011f\u0131 savunur. Bu durumu kendisinin anlad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131, b\u00f6yle konularda \u00e7ok iyi oldu\u011funu ima eder. Ayr\u0131ca bu inan\u0131\u015flar\u0131 davran\u0131\u015fa da d\u00f6ker. Sanr\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131 ne kadar gizlemeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015fsa da, zaman zaman bu \u00e7abaya yenilerek hediye g\u00f6nderme ya da takip etme davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131 sergileyebilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Erotomaninin alt\u0131nda yatan temel sorun, \u00e7ocukluk d\u00f6neminde yeterli ilgi ve sevginin al\u0131namam\u0131\u015f olmas\u0131d\u0131r. Yani erotomaniye yak\u0131n ki\u015filer, bir nevi ge\u00e7mi\u015fte unutulan ki\u015filerdir. Ge\u00e7mi\u015fte kurulan travmatik ili\u015fkiler de erotomaniye sebep olabilir. Kad\u0131nlarda daha s\u0131k g\u00f6r\u00fclen sanr\u0131lar, genellikle babadan sevgi g\u00f6r\u00fclmemesinin bir sonucu olabilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"Kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131ks\u0131z<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Erotomani, psikoterapi ile tedavi edilebilir. Dan\u0131\u015fan ve terapist \u00f6nce sebepler \u00fczerine odaklan\u0131r. Sebepleri bulduk\u00e7a, fark\u0131ndal\u0131k sa\u011fland\u0131k\u00e7a de\u011fi\u015fimin ger\u00e7ekle\u015fmesi i\u00e7in, sanr\u0131lar\u0131n ortadan kalkmas\u0131 ve daha ger\u00e7ek\u00e7i bir hikaye olu\u015fturabilmek i\u00e7in \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131l\u0131r. Erotomaninin genetik boyutu da olabilir; fakat genellikle ge\u00e7mi\u015f ya\u015fant\u0131larla alakal\u0131d\u0131r. Erotomanik sanr\u0131lar ya\u015fayan ki\u015filer, kendilerinde yolunda gitmeyen bir durum g\u00f6rmedikleri i\u00e7in genellikle psikoterapi almay\u0131 istemezler. Bu durumda yak\u0131nlar\u0131n\u0131, destek\u00e7ilerini devreye sokmak gerekebilir. Baz\u0131 durumlarda ila\u00e7 tedavisi ve psikoterapi birlikte g\u00f6t\u00fcr\u00fclmelidir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Erotomani ile ilgili filmler de \u00e7ekilmi\u015ftir. Mesela, 2002 yap\u0131m\u0131 olan \u201cHe Loves Me, He Loves Me Not\u201d ve 2004 y\u0131l\u0131nda \u00e7ekilen, \u201cEnduring Love\u201d filmlerinde erotomani ve erotomanik sanr\u0131lar s\u0131kl\u0131kla kar\u015f\u0131m\u0131za \u00e7\u0131kar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0130smail Aykut \u00d6zt\u00fcrk
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