{"id":5758,"date":"2022-09-05T08:40:00","date_gmt":"2022-09-05T05:40:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/wordpress-1316973-5388710.cloudwaysapps.com\/?p=5758"},"modified":"2022-09-29T17:48:12","modified_gmt":"2022-09-29T14:48:12","slug":"es-bagimlilik-nedir","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.healmeup.com\/blog\/es-bagimlilik-nedir\/","title":{"rendered":"E\u015f Ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131l\u0131k Nedir?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><em style=\"font-weight: bold;\">Bir e\u015f ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131l\u0131k ifadesi:<\/em><strong> <em>&#8220;Hayat\u0131ma biri girince ben \u00e7\u0131k\u0131yorum.&#8221;<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong><em>\u2018O benim i\u00e7in d\u00fcnyan\u0131n merkezi\u2019<\/em><\/strong>&nbsp;diyebilece\u011finiz biriyle bir ili\u015fkiyi payla\u015f\u0131yorsan\u0131z sizi okumaya davet ediyorum. Yahut \u201c<strong><em>bu denli doyurucu olmayan, zarar g\u00f6r\u00fclen, sa\u00e7\u0131n s\u00fcp\u00fcrge edildi\u011fi bir ili\u015fki nas\u0131l ve neden s\u00fcrd\u00fcr\u00fcl\u00fcr?\u201d<\/em><\/strong>sizin i\u00e7in merak uyand\u0131ran bir konuysa yine okumaya devam etmeye davet ediyorum.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Yarg\u0131lamadan, e\u015f ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n arka bah\u00e7esindeki duygular\u0131 ve ihtiya\u00e7lar\u0131 anlayabilmek i\u00e7in ufak bir tan\u0131mla ba\u015flayabiliriz.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>E\u015f ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131l\u0131k, insanlar\u0131n \u00e7evresindeki bireylerle payla\u015fabilecekleri&nbsp;<strong><em>sa\u011fl\u0131ks\u0131z bir ili\u015fkiyi&nbsp;<\/em><\/strong>tan\u0131mlayan yap\u0131y\u0131 ifade eder. Bu ili\u015fki; anne baba ili\u015fkisi olabilece\u011fi gibi, bir evlat ile kurulan ili\u015fki de olabilir, romantik bir ili\u015fki i\u00e7inde de deneyimlenebilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>E\u015f ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n bir ili\u015fkide nas\u0131l g\u00f6r\u00fcnd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc anlamaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131rken bu yap\u0131y\u0131 olu\u015fturan&nbsp;<strong><em>\u00f6nemli birka\u00e7 mesele<\/em><\/strong>den destek alabiliriz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div id=\"ez-toc-container\" class=\"ez-toc-v2_0_80 counter-hierarchy ez-toc-counter ez-toc-grey ez-toc-container-direction\">\n<div class=\"ez-toc-title-container\">\n<p class=\"ez-toc-title ez-toc-toggle\" style=\"cursor:pointer\">\u0130\u00e7indekiler<\/p>\n<span class=\"ez-toc-title-toggle\"><a href=\"#\" class=\"ez-toc-pull-right ez-toc-btn ez-toc-btn-xs ez-toc-btn-default ez-toc-toggle\" aria-label=\"Toggle Table of Content\"><span class=\"ez-toc-js-icon-con\"><span class=\"\"><span class=\"eztoc-hide\" style=\"display:none;\">Toggle<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-icon-toggle-span\"><svg style=\"fill: #999;color:#999\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" class=\"list-377408\" width=\"20px\" height=\"20px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" fill=\"none\"><path d=\"M6 6H4v2h2V6zm14 0H8v2h12V6zM4 11h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2zM4 16h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2z\" fill=\"currentColor\"><\/path><\/svg><svg style=\"fill: #999;color:#999\" class=\"arrow-unsorted-368013\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" width=\"10px\" height=\"10px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" version=\"1.2\" baseProfile=\"tiny\"><path d=\"M18.2 9.3l-6.2-6.3-6.2 6.3c-.2.2-.3.4-.3.7s.1.5.3.7c.2.2.4.3.7.3h11c.3 0 .5-.1.7-.3.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7zM5.8 14.7l6.2 6.3 6.2-6.3c.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7c-.2-.2-.4-.3-.7-.3h-11c-.3 0-.5.1-.7.3-.2.2-.3.5-.3.7s.1.5.3.7z\"\/><\/svg><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/a><\/span><\/div>\n<nav><ul class='ez-toc-list ez-toc-list-level-1 ' ><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-1\" href=\"https:\/\/www.healmeup.com\/blog\/es-bagimlilik-nedir\/#1-%E2%80%9CIhtiyac_Duyulan_Ve_Ihtiyac_Gideren_Olma%E2%80%9D_Ihtiyaci\" >1-\u201c\u0130htiya\u00e7 Duyulan Ve \u0130htiya\u00e7 Gideren Olma\u201d \u0130htiyac\u0131&nbsp;<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-2\" href=\"https:\/\/www.healmeup.com\/blog\/es-bagimlilik-nedir\/#2-Sagliksiz_Sinirlar_ve_Digerlerinin_Sinirlarina_Karsi_Kirilganlik\" >2-Sa\u011fl\u0131ks\u0131z S\u0131n\u0131rlar ve Di\u011ferlerinin S\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131na Kar\u015f\u0131 K\u0131r\u0131lganl\u0131k<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-3\" href=\"https:\/\/www.healmeup.com\/blog\/es-bagimlilik-nedir\/#3-Memnun_Etme_Ihtiyaci\" >3-Memnun Etme \u0130htiyac\u0131&nbsp;<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-4\" href=\"https:\/\/www.healmeup.com\/blog\/es-bagimlilik-nedir\/#4-_Digerlerinin_Sorumlulugunu_Almak\" >4- Di\u011ferlerinin Sorumlulu\u011funu Almak<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/nav><\/div>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"1-%E2%80%9CIhtiyac_Duyulan_Ve_Ihtiyac_Gideren_Olma%E2%80%9D_Ihtiyaci\"><\/span>1-\u201c\u0130htiya\u00e7 Duyulan Ve \u0130htiya\u00e7 Gideren Olma\u201d \u0130htiyac\u0131&nbsp;<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Ki\u015finin ili\u015fkilerinde&nbsp;<strong><em>kendisine ne kadar ihtiya\u00e7 duyuldu\u011funa ve bu ihtiyac\u0131 gideren olma halinin ne kadar onayland\u0131\u011f\u0131na&nbsp;<\/em><\/strong>ba\u011fl\u0131 olarak&nbsp;<strong><em>kendi kimli\u011fini ve de\u011ferlerini tan\u0131mlad\u0131klar\u0131 haller&nbsp;<\/em><\/strong>\u00f6n plandad\u0131r. Bu y\u00fczden \u00e7o\u011fu zaman e\u015f ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131 bir insan\u0131n&nbsp;<strong><em>di\u011ferlerinin<\/em><\/strong>&nbsp;<strong><em>kendisine ihtiyac\u0131 oldu\u011funu bilmesi ya da hissetmesi gerekir.&nbsp;<\/em><\/strong>Bu nedenle, bir ili\u015fki i\u00e7inde olduklar\u0131nda, ili\u015fkilerini&nbsp;<strong><em>d\u00fcnyalar\u0131n\u0131n merkezi haline getirme<\/em><\/strong>&nbsp;e\u011filimindedirler. Adeta ya\u015famlar\u0131n\u0131n anahtar\u0131n\u0131 ili\u015fkideki di\u011fer orta\u011fa teslim edip \u00e7\u0131kmaktad\u0131rlar.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Duygusal veya fiziksel olarak&nbsp;<strong><em>sa\u011fl\u0131ks\u0131z, mutsuz ve hatta istismarc\u0131 bir ili\u015fki&nbsp;<\/em><\/strong>i\u00e7inde olsalar dahi,&nbsp;<strong><em>ili\u015fkiyi noktalamak olduk\u00e7a zor ve kabul edilemezdir.<\/em><\/strong>&nbsp;Noktalaman\u0131n \u00f6tesinde, ili\u015fkinin zarar verici niteli\u011fi de zaman zaman fark\u0131ndal\u0131k alanlar\u0131n\u0131n d\u0131\u015f\u0131nda olabilir. S\u00fcrd\u00fcrd\u00fckleri ili\u015fkideki&nbsp;<strong><em>problemlerden \u00e7o\u011funlukla inkar yoluyla ka\u00e7\u0131nabilirler.<\/em><\/strong>&nbsp;Problem olarak tan\u0131mlanabilecek bir \u015fey olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnebilirler veya problem oldu\u011funu kabul etseler dahi bu problemin e\u015f ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131 bir ili\u015fki dinami\u011fiyle ilgili oldu\u011funu g\u00f6z ard\u0131 edebilirler. \u00c7o\u011fu e\u015f ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131 ki\u015fi daha \u00e7ocukluk \u00e7a\u011flar\u0131nda sevgi ve istismar\u0131n birlikteli\u011fini \u00f6\u011frenir. Ne yaz\u0131k ki baz\u0131 e\u015f ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131lar, \u00e7ocukluk \u00e7a\u011flar\u0131ndan miras olan k\u00f6t\u00fc davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n ayn\u0131 zamanda kendilerine tan\u0131d\u0131k geldi\u011finden de dolay\u0131 bir ili\u015fkide normal oldu\u011funu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnebilirler. \u0130stismara ve manip\u00fclasyona kar\u015f\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131k hale gelirler.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"2-Sagliksiz_Sinirlar_ve_Digerlerinin_Sinirlarina_Karsi_Kirilganlik\"><\/span>2-Sa\u011fl\u0131ks\u0131z S\u0131n\u0131rlar ve Di\u011ferlerinin S\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131na Kar\u015f\u0131 K\u0131r\u0131lganl\u0131k<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Baz\u0131 insanlar kendi duygusal ve fiziksel iyi olu\u015fu i\u00e7in ne gibi&nbsp;<strong><em>sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131<\/em><\/strong>&nbsp;<strong><em>s\u0131n\u0131rlara sahip olmalar\u0131 gerekti\u011fini bilmemeleri \u00f6nemli bir \u00f6zelliktir. Dolay\u0131s\u0131yla ge\u00e7irgen ve koruyucu olmayan s\u0131n\u0131rlara sahiplerdir.&nbsp;<\/em><\/strong>S\u0131n\u0131r ihlallerine kar\u015f\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131k olmalar\u0131 da bu ili\u015fkilerin belirgin bir \u00f6zelli\u011fidir. Kendi s\u0131n\u0131r in\u015falar\u0131n\u0131 ger\u00e7ekle\u015ftirmedikleri gibi ili\u015fkideki&nbsp;<strong><em>di\u011fer orta\u011f\u0131n koydu\u011fu bir s\u0131n\u0131ra kar\u015f\u0131 i\u00e7erlenmi\u015f, \u00f6fkeli ve k\u0131r\u0131lgan olabilirler.<\/em><\/strong>&nbsp;Bu s\u0131n\u0131rlar<strong><em>&nbsp;terk edilme, reddedilme ve onaylanmamaya dair korkular\u0131n\u0131 tetiklemektedir.&nbsp;<\/em><\/strong>B\u00f6ylece di\u011ferlerinin onay\u0131n\u0131 ve sevgisini kaybetmemek i\u00e7in g\u00f6n\u00fcllerinden \u201chay\u0131r \u201d demek ge\u00e7se dahi&nbsp;<strong><em>kendilerini \u201cevet \u201d derken bulabilirler.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter size-full\"><img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"714\" height=\"499\" src=\"https:\/\/www.healmeup.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/es_bagimlilik_nedir_evimdeki_psikolog_com_1.png\" alt=\"E\u015f Ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131l\u0131k Nedir?\" class=\"wp-image-5789\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.healmeup.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/es_bagimlilik_nedir_evimdeki_psikolog_com_1.png 714w, https:\/\/www.healmeup.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/es_bagimlilik_nedir_evimdeki_psikolog_com_1-300x210.png 300w, https:\/\/www.healmeup.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/es_bagimlilik_nedir_evimdeki_psikolog_com_1-86x60.png 86w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 714px) 100vw, 714px\" \/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"3-Memnun_Etme_Ihtiyaci\"><\/span>3-Memnun Etme \u0130htiyac\u0131&nbsp;<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Kimi insanlar<em style=\"font-weight: bold;\"> kendi<\/em>&nbsp;<strong><em>kimliklerini ve \u00f6z de\u011ferlerini di\u011ferlerinin kendileriyle ilgili d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnce ve duygular\u0131na dayand\u0131r\u0131rlar.<\/em><\/strong> Di\u011ferlerinin de\u011ferlendirmelerinin, d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelerinin ve duygular\u0131n\u0131n bu denli \u00f6nemli oldu\u011fu bu ili\u015fki yap\u0131s\u0131nda yine di\u011ferlerinin&nbsp;<strong><em>onay\u0131n\u0131 ve takdirini almak son derece \u00f6nemlidir.<\/em><\/strong>&nbsp;Adeta bir di\u011ferinin memnuniyeti ki\u015finin kendi memnuniyeti olarak deneyimlenebilmektedir. \u0130li\u015fkilerimizde bir di\u011ferinin memnuniyetini \u00f6nemsemek sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 bir ili\u015fkinin bir par\u00e7as\u0131d\u0131r. S\u00f6z konusu e\u015f ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131l\u0131k oldu\u011funda&nbsp;<strong><em>di\u011ferini<\/em><\/strong>&nbsp;<strong><em>memnun etmek &#8220;bir g\u00f6rev hatta bir zorunluluk&#8221; gibidir.<\/em><\/strong> Her ne olursa olsun,&nbsp;<strong><em>\u00f6ncelikli olarak bir di\u011ferinin ihtiya\u00e7lar\u0131 ve memnuniyeti \u00f6n plandad\u0131r.&nbsp;<\/em><\/strong>Ayn\u0131 zamanda sevgiyi fedakarl\u0131k olarak g\u00f6r\u00fcrler. Sevgilerini ili\u015fkide bulunduklar\u0131 bireye hizmet ederek, kendi ihtiya\u00e7lar\u0131n\u0131 ve sorumluluklar\u0131n\u0131 feda ederek g\u00f6sterirler.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"4-_Digerlerinin_Sorumlulugunu_Almak\"><\/span>4- Di\u011ferlerinin Sorumlulu\u011funu Almak<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Ki\u015filer di\u011ferlerinin problemleri, ya\u015fad\u0131klar\u0131 zorluklar\u0131, hatalar\u0131, sorumluluklar\u0131 ve hatta duygular\u0131ndan sorumlu olduklar\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnebilirler.&nbsp;<strong><em>Di\u011ferlerinin sorumluluklar\u0131 ve kendi sorumluluklar\u0131 aras\u0131nda sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 bir s\u0131n\u0131r, sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 bir mesafe bulunmamaktad\u0131r. Bu ayr\u0131m bulunmad\u0131\u011f\u0131ndan kendileri d\u0131\u015f\u0131nda geli\u015fen olumsuz durumlar i\u00e7in sorumluluk almalar\u0131, sorumlu ve hatta su\u00e7lu hissetmeleri adeta otomatik bir tepki olarak ortaya \u00e7\u0131kmaktad\u0131r.&nbsp;<\/em><\/strong>\u00c7\u00f6zmek, kontrol etmek, d\u00fczeltmek, iyile\u015ftirmek, kurtarmak gibi hedefler di\u011ferinin sorumlulu\u011funu alman\u0131n en belirgin kriterleri olabilir.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>E\u015f ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131 tan\u0131yabilmek i\u00e7in birka\u00e7 temel meseleden bahsettik. E\u015f ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131 ki\u015finin i\u015flevsiz ve sa\u011fl\u0131ks\u0131z olan bu ili\u015fki dinami\u011finde rol oynuyor olmas\u0131yla birlikte ili\u015fkilerin tek ki\u015filik olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 hat\u0131rlamak \u00f6nemlidir. Hakl\u0131, haks\u0131z; su\u00e7lu, su\u00e7suz aray\u0131\u015f\u0131n\u0131n ili\u015fkilerimizde bizi bir ad\u0131m ileri ta\u015f\u0131mad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 cebimize koyarak \u015fu soruyu sormakta fayda olabilir:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Bu bir sorun, bu bir zorluk. Ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131n zorlu\u011fu belki anlayamam ama g\u00f6rmeyi deneyebilirim.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Senin i\u00e7in, sana destek olabilmek i\u00e7in ne yapabilirim?&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Buraday\u0131m, seninle.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"Bir e\u015f ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131l\u0131k ifadesi: &#8220;Hayat\u0131ma biri girince ben \u00e7\u0131k\u0131yorum.&#8221; \u2018O benim i\u00e7in d\u00fcnyan\u0131n merkezi\u2019&nbsp;diyebilece\u011finiz biriyle bir ili\u015fkiyi payla\u015f\u0131yorsan\u0131z&hellip;","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":5790,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"csco_display_header_overlay":false,"csco_singular_sidebar":"","csco_page_header_type":"","csco_page_load_nextpost":"","csco_post_video_location":[],"csco_post_video_location_hash":"","csco_post_video_url":"","csco_post_video_bg_start_time":0,"csco_post_video_bg_end_time":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[238],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-5758","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-iliski","8":"cs-entry","9":"cs-video-wrap"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.healmeup.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5758","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.healmeup.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.healmeup.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.healmeup.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.healmeup.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=5758"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/www.healmeup.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5758\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":5791,"href":"https:\/\/www.healmeup.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5758\/revisions\/5791"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.healmeup.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/5790"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.healmeup.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=5758"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.healmeup.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=5758"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.healmeup.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=5758"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}