{"id":655,"date":"2018-10-22T10:49:49","date_gmt":"2018-10-22T07:49:49","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/wordpress-1316973-5388710.cloudwaysapps.com\/?p=655"},"modified":"2022-04-04T02:56:09","modified_gmt":"2022-04-03T23:56:09","slug":"iliskinizde-tartismalari-azaltmak-mumkun-mu","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.healmeup.com\/blog\/iliskinizde-tartismalari-azaltmak-mumkun-mu\/","title":{"rendered":"\u0130li\u015fkinizde Tart\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131 Azaltmak M\u00fcmk\u00fcn m\u00fc?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>\u0130li\u015fkilerde tart\u0131\u015fmalar ka\u00e7\u0131n\u0131lmazd\u0131r. Bir anla\u015fmazl\u0131k an\u0131nda, en yumu\u015fak c\u00fcmlelerin, sevgi s\u00f6zc\u00fcklerinin bile daha \u00e7ok sinirlenmeye sebebiyet verdi\u011fini g\u00f6rebilirsiniz. Tart\u0131\u015fman\u0131n ortas\u0131nda \u201cSeni Seviyorum\u201d diyen bir e\u015f pekala konuyu da\u011f\u0131tmakla su\u00e7lanabilir. Peki t\u00fcm bu gergin anlar\u0131 azaltman\u0131n bir yolu var m\u0131?<br>Tart\u0131\u015fmada arg\u00fcmanlar\u0131n s\u00fcrekli olarak de\u011fi\u015fmesi, en zor durumlardan bir tanesidir. S\u0131radan bir anla\u015fmazl\u0131\u011f\u0131n bir anda 6 ay \u00f6nce yap\u0131lm\u0131\u015f ba\u015fka bir davran\u0131\u015f\u0131 g\u00fcndeme getirdi\u011fini g\u00f6rebilirsiniz. Bu durumda kontrolden \u00e7\u0131km\u0131\u015f gibi hissetmeniz olduk\u00e7a do\u011fald\u0131r. Bu t\u00fcr anlarda anahtar davran\u0131\u015f; eylemlerinizi kontrol alt\u0131na almaktan ge\u00e7er.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div id=\"ez-toc-container\" class=\"ez-toc-v2_0_80 counter-hierarchy ez-toc-counter ez-toc-grey ez-toc-container-direction\">\n<div class=\"ez-toc-title-container\">\n<p class=\"ez-toc-title ez-toc-toggle\" style=\"cursor:pointer\">\u0130\u00e7indekiler<\/p>\n<span class=\"ez-toc-title-toggle\"><a href=\"#\" class=\"ez-toc-pull-right ez-toc-btn ez-toc-btn-xs ez-toc-btn-default ez-toc-toggle\" aria-label=\"Toggle Table of Content\"><span class=\"ez-toc-js-icon-con\"><span class=\"\"><span class=\"eztoc-hide\" style=\"display:none;\">Toggle<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-icon-toggle-span\"><svg style=\"fill: #999;color:#999\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" class=\"list-377408\" width=\"20px\" height=\"20px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" fill=\"none\"><path d=\"M6 6H4v2h2V6zm14 0H8v2h12V6zM4 11h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2zM4 16h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2z\" fill=\"currentColor\"><\/path><\/svg><svg style=\"fill: #999;color:#999\" class=\"arrow-unsorted-368013\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" width=\"10px\" height=\"10px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" version=\"1.2\" baseProfile=\"tiny\"><path d=\"M18.2 9.3l-6.2-6.3-6.2 6.3c-.2.2-.3.4-.3.7s.1.5.3.7c.2.2.4.3.7.3h11c.3 0 .5-.1.7-.3.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7zM5.8 14.7l6.2 6.3 6.2-6.3c.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7c-.2-.2-.4-.3-.7-.3h-11c-.3 0-.5.1-.7.3-.2.2-.3.5-.3.7s.1.5.3.7z\"\/><\/svg><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/a><\/span><\/div>\n<nav><ul class='ez-toc-list ez-toc-list-level-1 ' ><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-4'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-1\" href=\"https:\/\/www.healmeup.com\/blog\/iliskinizde-tartismalari-azaltmak-mumkun-mu\/#Giderek_Artan_Argumanlar_Icin_Oneriler\" >Giderek Artan Arg\u00fcmanlar \u0130\u00e7in \u00d6neriler;<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-4'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-2\" href=\"https:\/\/www.healmeup.com\/blog\/iliskinizde-tartismalari-azaltmak-mumkun-mu\/#1_Gercek_Anlamda_Dinleyin\" >1. Ger\u00e7ek Anlamda Dinleyin!<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-4'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-3\" href=\"https:\/\/www.healmeup.com\/blog\/iliskinizde-tartismalari-azaltmak-mumkun-mu\/#2_Acik_Fikirli_Olun\" >2. A\u00e7\u0131k Fikirli Olun!<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-4'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-4\" href=\"https:\/\/www.healmeup.com\/blog\/iliskinizde-tartismalari-azaltmak-mumkun-mu\/#3_Sesinizi_Yukseltmeyin\" >3. Sesinizi Y\u00fckseltmeyin!<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-4'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-5\" href=\"https:\/\/www.healmeup.com\/blog\/iliskinizde-tartismalari-azaltmak-mumkun-mu\/#4_Cozum_Arayin\" >4. \u00c7\u00f6z\u00fcm Aray\u0131n!<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-4'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-6\" href=\"https:\/\/www.healmeup.com\/blog\/iliskinizde-tartismalari-azaltmak-mumkun-mu\/#5_Nefes_Alin\" >5. Nefes Al\u0131n!<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/nav><\/div>\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Giderek_Artan_Argumanlar_Icin_Oneriler\"><\/span>Giderek Artan Arg\u00fcmanlar \u0130\u00e7in \u00d6neriler;<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p>Hareketlerini ve duygular\u0131n\u0131 kontrol etmek, \u00e7ok k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck ve anlams\u0131z gibi g\u00f6r\u00fcnen tart\u0131\u015fma sebeplerini azaltabilir, hatta ortadan kald\u0131rabilir. Peki kontrol\u00fc nas\u0131l sa\u011flayacaks\u0131n\u0131z?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"1_Gercek_Anlamda_Dinleyin\"><\/span>1. Ger\u00e7ek Anlamda Dinleyin!<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p>Hayat\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n pek \u00e7ok an\u0131nda, sadece yan\u0131t vermeye konsantre oldu\u011fumuz a\u00e7\u0131k bir ger\u00e7ek. Ki\u015fili\u011fe y\u00f6nelik savunma gibi hissedilen anlar\u0131n \u00e7o\u011funda verece\u011fimiz yan\u0131tlara odaklan\u0131r durumday\u0131z. D\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelerimizi s\u00fcrekli formalize ediyor, di\u011fer ki\u015fi c\u00fcmlesini tamamlayana kadar, fikrini \u00e7\u00fcr\u00fctme y\u00f6ntemlerini zihnimizde in\u015fa ediyoruz. Duymak istediklerimizi duyuyor, yan\u0131tlar\u0131m\u0131zda gerici davran\u0131yoruz. Bu \u00e7ok yorucu olan sava\u015f\u0131 art\u0131k b\u0131rak\u0131n.<br>Daha iyi bir yol olan \u201cger\u00e7ekten dinleme\u201d al\u0131\u015ft\u0131rmalar\u0131n\u0131 deneyin. Odak noktalar\u0131n\u0131 da\u011f\u0131tmay\u0131n, konu\u015furken kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131zdaki ki\u015finin g\u00f6zlerinin i\u00e7ine bakarak, ger\u00e7ekten dinlemenin cevap verme tela\u015f\u0131ndan daha \u00f6nemli oldu\u011funu ona hissettirin. \u0130tirazdan \u00f6nce anlamaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131n.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"2_Acik_Fikirli_Olun\"><\/span>2. A\u00e7\u0131k Fikirli Olun!<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p>Kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131zdaki ki\u015fiye fikrinizi de\u011fi\u015ftirmeye a\u00e7\u0131k olma \u015fans\u0131 verin. Hakl\u0131 oldu\u011funu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnece\u011finiz noktalar\u0131n\u0131 bulun ve bunlar\u0131 ifade edin. Tart\u0131\u015fmada bir kazanan\u0131n olmayaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131, ikinizin de k\u0131smen hakl\u0131 olabilece\u011fini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"3_Sesinizi_Yukseltmeyin\"><\/span>3. Sesinizi Y\u00fckseltmeyin!<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p>Sesinizi y\u00fckseltti\u011finizde tart\u0131\u015fmadaki en zay\u0131f halka haline gelirsiniz ve konu bir kontrol sava\u015f\u0131na d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015febilir. Unutmay\u0131n! Ba\u011f\u0131r\u0131rken s\u00f6yledi\u011finiz her s\u00f6z, mant\u0131ks\u0131zl\u0131\u011fa evrilecektir. \u0130li\u015fkinizin yara alma riski, sesinizin daha \u00e7ok \u00e7\u0131k\u0131yor olmas\u0131ndan daha az \u00f6nemli de\u011fildir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"4_Cozum_Arayin\"><\/span>4. \u00c7\u00f6z\u00fcm Aray\u0131n!<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p>Tart\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131n bir \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcme ba\u011flanmas\u0131n\u0131 istiyorsan\u0131z, konuya ba\u011fl\u0131 kal\u0131n. Di\u011fer ba\u015fka \u015feyleri masaya yat\u0131rmay\u0131 tercih ediyorsan\u0131z, kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131zdaki ki\u015fiden bir ad\u0131m daha uzakla\u015faca\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 kabul ediyorsunuz demektir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"5_Nefes_Alin\"><\/span>5. Nefes Al\u0131n!<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p>\u00c7ok sinirlendi\u011finiz anlarda, derin bir nefes alarak 10\u2019a kadar saymak s\u0131k\u00e7a tavsiye edilmektedir. Elbette bu durumun mant\u0131kl\u0131 bir sebebi var. Derin nefes almak zihninizi yeniden toplamak ve daha net d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnebilmek i\u00e7in size biraz daha s\u00fcre verir. Bu k\u0131sa anda iyi bir dinleyici olmak gereklili\u011fini kendinize hat\u0131rlat\u0131n.<br>Sakin olmak i\u00e7in \u00e7aba sarf etmek kimimiz i\u00e7in son derece g\u00fc\u00e7 bir durumdur. Unutmay\u0131n ki sakin kalmay\u0131 ba\u015farmak; o anda yanl\u0131\u015f anlad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z bir \u015feyden daha sonra pi\u015fman olaca\u011f\u0131m\u0131z \u015fekilde bahsetmemizi engelleyecektir.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"\u0130li\u015fkilerde tart\u0131\u015fmalar ka\u00e7\u0131n\u0131lmazd\u0131r. Bir anla\u015fmazl\u0131k an\u0131nda, en yumu\u015fak c\u00fcmlelerin, sevgi s\u00f6zc\u00fcklerinin bile daha \u00e7ok sinirlenmeye sebebiyet verdi\u011fini g\u00f6rebilirsiniz.&hellip;","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":657,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"csco_display_header_overlay":false,"csco_singular_sidebar":"","csco_page_header_type":"","csco_page_load_nextpost":"","csco_post_video_location":[],"csco_post_video_location_hash":"","csco_post_video_url":"","csco_post_video_bg_start_time":0,"csco_post_video_bg_end_time":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[238],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-655","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-iliski","8":"cs-entry","9":"cs-video-wrap"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.healmeup.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/655","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.healmeup.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.healmeup.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.healmeup.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.healmeup.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=655"}],"version-history":[{"count":4,"href":"https:\/\/www.healmeup.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/655\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1058,"href":"https:\/\/www.healmeup.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/655\/revisions\/1058"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.healmeup.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/657"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.healmeup.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=655"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.healmeup.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=655"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.healmeup.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=655"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}