{"id":661,"date":"2018-10-31T09:30:46","date_gmt":"2018-10-31T06:30:46","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/wordpress-1316973-5388710.cloudwaysapps.com\/?p=661"},"modified":"2026-03-25T21:52:48","modified_gmt":"2026-03-25T18:52:48","slug":"pasif-agresiflik-neden-yapiyoruz-ve-nasil-engellenir","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.healmeup.com\/blog\/pasif-agresiflik-neden-yapiyoruz-ve-nasil-engellenir\/","title":{"rendered":"Pasif Agresiflik: Neden Yap\u0131yoruz ve Nas\u0131l Engellenir?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><strong>Pasif Agresiflik<\/strong>; \u00f6fkeyi g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fc\u015fte d\u00fc\u015fmanca olmayan bir \u015fekilde ifade etmenin bir yolu, gizli duygular\u0131 belirtmenin kas\u0131tl\u0131 ve maskele\u015fmi\u015f bir \u015feklidir. Bu durum, rahats\u0131zl\u0131k verici bak\u0131\u015flardan ve sahte \u00f6vg\u00fclerden daha fazlas\u0131n\u0131 kapsayan bir davran\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Ba\u015fka bir ki\u015fiye kar\u015f\u0131 olan <strong>gizli \u00f6fke<\/strong>yi ortaya koymak i\u00e7in tasarlanm\u0131\u015f bir dizi eylemlerdir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div id=\"ez-toc-container\" class=\"ez-toc-v2_0_80 counter-hierarchy ez-toc-counter ez-toc-grey ez-toc-container-direction\">\n<div class=\"ez-toc-title-container\">\n<p class=\"ez-toc-title ez-toc-toggle\" style=\"cursor:pointer\">\u0130\u00e7indekiler<\/p>\n<span class=\"ez-toc-title-toggle\"><a href=\"#\" class=\"ez-toc-pull-right ez-toc-btn ez-toc-btn-xs ez-toc-btn-default ez-toc-toggle\" aria-label=\"Toggle Table of Content\"><span class=\"ez-toc-js-icon-con\"><span class=\"\"><span class=\"eztoc-hide\" style=\"display:none;\">Toggle<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-icon-toggle-span\"><svg style=\"fill: #999;color:#999\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" class=\"list-377408\" width=\"20px\" height=\"20px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" fill=\"none\"><path d=\"M6 6H4v2h2V6zm14 0H8v2h12V6zM4 11h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2zM4 16h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2z\" fill=\"currentColor\"><\/path><\/svg><svg style=\"fill: #999;color:#999\" class=\"arrow-unsorted-368013\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" width=\"10px\" height=\"10px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" version=\"1.2\" baseProfile=\"tiny\"><path d=\"M18.2 9.3l-6.2-6.3-6.2 6.3c-.2.2-.3.4-.3.7s.1.5.3.7c.2.2.4.3.7.3h11c.3 0 .5-.1.7-.3.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7zM5.8 14.7l6.2 6.3 6.2-6.3c.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7c-.2-.2-.4-.3-.7-.3h-11c-.3 0-.5.1-.7.3-.2.2-.3.5-.3.7s.1.5.3.7z\"\/><\/svg><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/a><\/span><\/div>\n<nav><ul class='ez-toc-list ez-toc-list-level-1 ' ><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-1\" href=\"https:\/\/www.healmeup.com\/blog\/pasif-agresiflik-neden-yapiyoruz-ve-nasil-engellenir\/#Insanlari_Pasif_Agresif_Yapan_Etken_Nedir\" >\u0130nsanlar\u0131 Pasif Agresif Yapan Etken Nedir?<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-2\" href=\"https:\/\/www.healmeup.com\/blog\/pasif-agresiflik-neden-yapiyoruz-ve-nasil-engellenir\/#Pasif_Agresif_Davranislarinizi_Nasil_Durdurabilirsiniz\" >Pasif Agresif Davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 Nas\u0131l Durdurabilirsiniz?<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-3\" href=\"https:\/\/www.healmeup.com\/blog\/pasif-agresiflik-neden-yapiyoruz-ve-nasil-engellenir\/#1-Davranisizlarinizi_Tanimak\" >1-Davran\u0131\u015f\u0131zlar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 Tan\u0131mak<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-4\" href=\"https:\/\/www.healmeup.com\/blog\/pasif-agresiflik-neden-yapiyoruz-ve-nasil-engellenir\/#2-Davranisinizin_Neden_Degismesi_Gerektigini_Anlamak\" >2-Davran\u0131\u015f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n Neden De\u011fi\u015fmesi Gerekti\u011fini Anlamak<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-5\" href=\"https:\/\/www.healmeup.com\/blog\/pasif-agresiflik-neden-yapiyoruz-ve-nasil-engellenir\/#3-Kendinize_Zaman_Vermek\" >3-Kendinize Zaman Vermek<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-6\" href=\"https:\/\/www.healmeup.com\/blog\/pasif-agresiflik-neden-yapiyoruz-ve-nasil-engellenir\/#4-Kizginligin_Normal_Oldugunu_Fark_Etmek\" >4-K\u0131zg\u0131nl\u0131\u011f\u0131n Normal Oldu\u011funu Fark Etmek<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-7\" href=\"https:\/\/www.healmeup.com\/blog\/pasif-agresiflik-neden-yapiyoruz-ve-nasil-engellenir\/#5-Iddiali_Olabilirsiniz_Agresif_Degil\" >5-\u0130ddial\u0131 Olabilirsiniz; Agresif De\u011fil<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-8\" href=\"https:\/\/www.healmeup.com\/blog\/pasif-agresiflik-neden-yapiyoruz-ve-nasil-engellenir\/#6-Yuzlesmeye_Acik_Olmak\" >6-Y\u00fczle\u015fmeye A\u00e7\u0131k Olmak!<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/nav><\/div>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Insanlari_Pasif_Agresif_Yapan_Etken_Nedir\"><\/span>\u0130nsanlar\u0131 Pasif Agresif Yapan Etken Nedir?<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Pasif agresif davran\u0131\u015f<\/strong>, pek \u00e7ok farkl\u0131 \u015fekilde ifade edilse de (alayc\u0131l\u0131k, sessiz bask\u0131, lakap takma), ayn\u0131 k\u00f6klere sahiptir: Derinlerde yatan bir korku, do\u011frudan \u00e7at\u0131\u015fmadan ka\u00e7\u0131nma, g\u00fc\u00e7s\u00fczl\u00fck ve \u00e7aresizlik hissi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Bu tip davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n nedenlerinden bir tanesi <strong>\u00f6fke korkusu<\/strong>dur. Bir \u00e7o\u011fumuz yeti\u015firken \u00f6fkeyi uygunsuz bir \u015fekilde ifade etmenin k\u00f6t\u00fc oldu\u011funu \u00f6\u011freniriz. Pasif agresif ki\u015fi de \u00f6fkeyi ifade etmenin k\u00f6t\u00fc oldu\u011funu ve \u00f6fke duyman\u0131n onu k\u00f6t\u00fc bir insan yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6\u011frendi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Bu y\u00fczden en kuvvetli sebeplerden bir di\u011feri yeti\u015ftirilme tarz\u0131d\u0131r. Kendini ifade etmenin yasak oldu\u011fu bir ortamda ebeveynlerin a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 derecede kontrol\u00fc ile yeti\u015fen \u00e7ocuklar \u00f6fke ve d\u00fc\u015fmanl\u0131k duygular\u0131n\u0131 ifade etmenin ba\u015fka yollar\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6\u011frenmek zorunda kal\u0131yor. Aileye ba\u011fl\u0131 olduklar\u0131 i\u00e7in, onlar\u0131n dedi\u011fi gibi davranmazlarsa cezaland\u0131r\u0131l\u0131yorlar. Bu nedenle, ebeveynlerine gizlice sald\u0131r\u0131yor ve bu davran\u0131\u015f\u0131 yeti\u015fkinli\u011fe d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcr\u00fcyorlar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Pasif agresif davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131 tan\u0131mlayan baz\u0131 \u00f6rnekler;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>\u00c7at\u0131\u015fma i\u00e7inde olunan birisiyle konuyu konu\u015fmak yerine a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 sessiz ya da sinirli davranmak<\/li><li>Olumsuz duygular\u0131n, hatta d\u00fc\u015fmanca hislerin dengesiz eylemlerle yans\u0131t\u0131lmas\u0131<\/li><li>Ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n ili\u015fkilerini bilerek ya da bilmeyerek sabote etmek<\/li><li>Ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131 s\u00fcrekli olarak su\u00e7lamak<\/li><li>\u0130yili\u011fi ve sevgiyi ceza ama\u00e7l\u0131 esirgemek<\/li><li>Duygusal taciz boyutunda manip\u00fclatif davran\u0131\u015flar sergilemek<\/li><li>\u00dcst\u00fc kapal\u0131 hakaretler ve huysuz davran\u0131\u015flarda bulunmak<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Pasif_Agresif_Davranislarinizi_Nasil_Durdurabilirsiniz\"><\/span>Pasif Agresif Davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 Nas\u0131l Durdurabilirsiniz?<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>\u00d6fkenizi pasif agresif davran\u0131\u015flarla ifade eden birisini g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fczde ya da kendinizde bu tarz rahats\u0131zl\u0131k verici davran\u0131\u015flar g\u00f6zlemledi\u011finizde \u00f6nemli bir fark\u0131ndal\u0131k an\u0131ndas\u0131n\u0131z demektir. \u0130nsanlarla s\u00fcrd\u00fcrd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fcz bu ileti\u015fim tarz\u0131n\u0131 ortadan kald\u0131rarak daha sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 ve etkili bir ili\u015fki kurmay\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnebilirsiniz:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"1-Davranisizlarinizi_Tanimak\"><\/span>1-Davran\u0131\u015f\u0131zlar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 Tan\u0131mak<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>\u0130leti\u015fim kurdu\u011funuz ki\u015filer, onlar\u0131n ho\u015funa gitmeyecek fakat dikkat \u00e7ekici tav\u0131rlar\u0131n\u0131za ve c\u00fcmlelerinize al\u0131\u015ft\u0131lar m\u0131? Bunun fark\u0131nda olup, pasif agresif verdi\u011finiz tepkileri tan\u0131mlaman\u0131z ve sa\u011fl\u0131ks\u0131z kurulan bu ilginin girdab\u0131ndan \u00e7\u0131kman\u0131za yarayacakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"2-Davranisinizin_Neden_Degismesi_Gerektigini_Anlamak\"><\/span>2-Davran\u0131\u015f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n Neden De\u011fi\u015fmesi Gerekti\u011fini Anlamak<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Pasif sald\u0131rganl\u0131\u011f\u0131n, sadece pasif oldu\u011fu i\u00e7in daha az sald\u0131rgan olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 fark etmek \u00f6nemlidir. Esasen, pasif agresiflik dolayl\u0131 bir sald\u0131rganl\u0131k bi\u00e7imidir \u2013 daha hafif de\u011fildir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"3-Kendinize_Zaman_Vermek\"><\/span>3-Kendinize Zaman Vermek<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Kendi davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 tan\u0131mak ve onlar\u0131 anlamak, de\u011fi\u015fime y\u00f6nelik iyi bir ilk ad\u0131md\u0131r; ancak kal\u0131plar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 ve tepkilerinizi de\u011fi\u015ftirmek biraz zaman alabilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"4-Kizginligin_Normal_Oldugunu_Fark_Etmek\"><\/span>4-K\u0131zg\u0131nl\u0131\u011f\u0131n Normal Oldu\u011funu Fark Etmek<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Olumlu bir insan olabilirsiniz ve hala genellikle negatif olarak etiketledi\u011fimiz duygular\u0131 hissedebilirsiniz. Ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n davran\u0131\u015f\u0131na tepki olarak \u00f6fke hissederken; sevgi dolu bir k\u0131z arkada\u015f, erkek arkada\u015f, anne, baba, o\u011ful veya k\u0131z olabilirsiniz. Al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015fmesi vakit alabilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"5-Iddiali_Olabilirsiniz_Agresif_Degil\"><\/span>5-\u0130ddial\u0131 Olabilirsiniz; Agresif De\u011fil<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Durumlar\u0131 net bir \u015fekilde a\u00e7\u0131klamal\u0131, g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fleriniz hakk\u0131nda a\u00e7\u0131k olmal\u0131s\u0131n\u0131z. Kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131zdaki ki\u015finin davran\u0131\u015f\u0131n\u0131n etkisini a\u00e7\u0131k ifadelerde belirtmesine izin vermelisiniz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"6-Yuzlesmeye_Acik_Olmak\"><\/span>6-Y\u00fczle\u015fmeye A\u00e7\u0131k Olmak!<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>\u0130htiya\u00e7lar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 ifade etmek potansiyel \u00e7at\u0131\u015fmalara yol a\u00e7abilir; ancak bu her zaman k\u00f6t\u00fc bir durum de\u011fildir. Akla ilk gelen \u015fey olmasa bile, y\u00fczle\u015fmenin do\u011frudan ileti\u015fim ve sayg\u0131l\u0131 bir tutum olabilece\u011fini unutmamal\u0131s\u0131n\u0131z.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Pasif sald\u0131rgan<\/strong> davran\u0131\u015flardan ka\u00e7\u0131nmak, sessizli\u011fe b\u00fcr\u00fcnm\u00fc\u015f \u00f6fkenizi k\u0131rarak, i\u00e7inizdeki bu bo\u015flu\u011fu kapatmay\u0131 gerektirir. \u0130htiya\u00e7lar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 ifade etmek istedi\u011finizde, ba\u015fkalar\u0131 taraf\u0131ndan reddedilme korkusundan, umursanmayacak olma tehdidinden kendinizi uzakla\u015ft\u0131rmal\u0131s\u0131n\u0131z. Bu tip durumlarda ne kadar az korkunuz varsa, do\u011frudan rahat ve sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 bir ileti\u015fim kurmaya o kadar yak\u0131ns\u0131n\u0131z demektir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Olumsuz davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 \u00f6nemli ve ge\u00e7erli bir \u015fekilde tedavi etmeye ba\u015flad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131zda ve bunun ne kadar iyi oldu\u011funu hissetti\u011finizde, hayat\u0131 daha b\u00fcy\u00fck bir heyecanla kar\u015f\u0131lamaya ba\u015flayacaks\u0131n\u0131z.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/Talkspace.com\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Kaynak<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"Pasif Agresiflik; \u00f6fkeyi g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fc\u015fte d\u00fc\u015fmanca olmayan bir \u015fekilde ifade etmenin bir yolu, gizli duygular\u0131 belirtmenin kas\u0131tl\u0131 ve maskele\u015fmi\u015f&hellip;","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":662,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"csco_display_header_overlay":false,"csco_singular_sidebar":"","csco_page_header_type":"","csco_page_load_nextpost":"","csco_post_video_location":[],"csco_post_video_location_hash":"","csco_post_video_url":"","csco_post_video_bg_start_time":0,"csco_post_video_bg_end_time":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[263],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-661","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-kisisel-gelisim","8":"cs-entry","9":"cs-video-wrap"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.healmeup.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/661","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.healmeup.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.healmeup.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.healmeup.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.healmeup.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=661"}],"version-history":[{"count":4,"href":"https:\/\/www.healmeup.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/661\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":5447,"href":"https:\/\/www.healmeup.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/661\/revisions\/5447"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.healmeup.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/662"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.healmeup.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=661"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.healmeup.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=661"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.healmeup.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=661"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}